Dear Grieving Mother

Dear Grieving Mother,

I see you.

Not the version of you that is holding it together for the sake of the other children, or for your husband, or for the church people who come to sit with you and don't know what to say.

I see the version of you that cries in the bathroom. The one who walks into their room and just stands there.

Your Grief Is Sacred

The loss of a child — at any age, in any way — is a grief unlike any other. It is not natural. It is not supposed to happen this way. And no one — not time, not scripture, not the well-meaning aunties — gets to tell you how long it is supposed to hurt.

It will hurt for as long as it hurts. And that is allowed.

What You Don't Have to Do

You don't have to be strong right now. Strength is not the same as healing. You don't have to smile for visitors. You don't have to explain why you're still struggling months later. And you absolutely do not have to move on.

You move forward. Not on.

You Are Still a Mother

Nobody's death can un-mother you. You are still their mother. You will always be their mother. And the love you carry for them — that is not grief. That is legacy.

Please reach out if you need a safe space to process this. Our grief support sessions are here — not to rush your healing, but to walk it with you.

You are not alone.

With love,
Sandra